+1
Get a rain gauge and and hang it on the fence or somewhere in the lawn that isn't obstructed, it will be money well spent.
Now for talking to your lawn at night, I wouldn't recommend that as you don't want to disturb it while it is sleeping and recovering from the heat of the day and getting ready for the next day

But all jokes aside, that is the best advice you can get, know what right looks like so when something is off you can investigate and use some deductive reasoning to figure out the cause. Also, knowing how much water your irrigation puts out over a given time is good to know so you can supplement the rain fall with the correct amount. Sorry, there is no definitive answers as everyone has different soil, grass and micro climates they have to deal with and it's all a learning experience.